The ONE Thing | My journey into specialization | Austin Boudoir Photographer

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My journey into specialization started years ago. Only it didn't start with me actually specializing as it should have.  It started with me thinking in the back of my mind (way back there with high school algebra and "how to be a domestic wife") "I really should be JUST a boudoir photographer. That's it."  

Then of course, at "OTHER" voice in my head said things like:

"But lots of people pay you to photograph those other things!"

"But about 40% of your income is based on everything but boudoir!"

"But you would lose so much of your existing target market!"

"But so many people have negative feelings towards boudoir!"

"But the numbers! Do the numbers! It doesn't make sense!"

"But it's so hard to promote yourself as a boudoir photographer. I mean...not everyone wants their photos online...and, after all, that IS how you accumulated so many of your existing clients...because they saw your photos."

"But Facebook hates boobs."

"But your expenses will go up tremendously. You'll need a studio. And furniture for the studio. And insurance for the studio. And electricity for the studio. And, and, and..."

"But, but, BUTTTTTTTTT....."

I, of course, heard all of those specialized photographers talking about how fantastic it was, how it's the ONLY way to go. I read those books about specializing. I read ALL the books.  

It wasn't until a few years later that I told that "OTHER" voice to STFU.  I did it. I made the switch. I decided to specialize.  And you know what?! The CRAZIEST THING HAPPENED. All of the things I had read in those books, all of the AWESOME results that those other specialized photographers bragged about CAME TRUE. 

+ I am booking MORE of my ideal client. Clients who VALUE my time and my work. 

+ I am WORKING LESS. Yep. Working less. It's funny how when you do what you're good at and really work on that ONE THING--it comes pretty naturally to me.  Not to minimize the amount of work that I put into my "job", but when it comes easy to you, and when you're only doing what you love, it really doesn't feel like work. AND it takes you less time than when you do something you AREN'T naturally fabulous at and then have to work EXTRA EXTRA HARD to compensate for your lacking skill in that department.

+ I am making more.  Uh huh. When I took an in-depth look into the number of hours I was pouring into other types of shoots (weddings, especially!) vs. what I was charging for those services...I was profiting an embarrassing amount per hour. If you look at the figure alone, you think "Wow, yeah, that's awesome. She really does well for herself!"....if you look at how many hours invested each month.....OUCH. It's not just that those hours were spent working hard. The kicker is that those were hours that WERE NOT spent on really important things like time with my family that I will never get back, like trying new things, like stopping to smell the roses. 

+ I am able to be selective.  If someone comes to me and asks me to photograph their family, I can easily say "I'm so sorry, I specialize in boudoir now." It's the truth. It doesn't mean I don't like that person. I know there are AMAZING family photographers out there that will do so much better than me and will be a better fit for that person. While it may sound like I'm being snobby...it's QUITE THE OPPOSITE. I've accepted the fact that I am NOT AWESOME at every type of photography. Just not. I've squashed my artist's ego. I find that the clients who I turn down but happily refer to another photographer are GRATEFUL for my honesty and end up most likely being far happier with their final images with that other photographer than the would have with mine (even though they might not realize that!).  Then they come to me down the road for boudoir. Because that's what I do. And I do the hell out of it. 

+ Doors are opening and they're opening WIDE. It is still absolutely BAFFLING to me how many opportunities have come my way since specializing less than 6 months ago. I can't talk about all of them just yet, but I assure you,  these things would have never happened if I was still trying to juggle weddings, families, fashion, etc etc etc.  It is so exciting. I'm still just stunned. And I know that it's only going to get better from here. 

 

My final takeaway from all of this:  I should have done this a LONG freaking time ago.

 

So you're not a photographer? So what. This blog post is still for you. What are ways you can change your life by being more selective about what you do? This doesn't even have to be about work, but life in general. What if , when you were playing with your children......wait for it........ you were JUST playing with your children?!  That's it. 100% of your attention on your kids. Can you imagine how your relationship would grow? Improved behavior? Improved quality of family life? 

Think about that. 

ALSO- I strongly, STRONGLY recommend that anyone struggling with this topic pick up the book:  "The ONE Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results" which obviously covers this very topic. 

40 and fabulous | Austin Boudoir Photographer

40 years and 5 children under her belt, and she's still kicking ass and taking names.  Miss "R", here, is absolutely awesome. I've photographed her a few times in the past and her enthusiasm about the experience is a reminder to me that I am doing EXACTLY what I'm supposed to be doing. For women like her. She rocks. Read on for her story. 

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"I have worked with Kara over the past three years and every time she announces she is coming to Erie I try to book some time with her. This last time I had a boudoir shoot, the 2nd one in 3 years, only this time I felt differently about myself. I am 40 years old, 30 lbs. heavier then last time and with 5 kids, the oldest being 20....a lot more haggard.

I hide from having my picture taken, the person I saw in photographs just didn't fit the image I had in my head. The idea that I wasn't that young flat bellied perky breasted tight butted hottie that the media spreads across the masses as the ideal woman left me feeling less then desirable, no matter how much my guy said I was the prettiest woman in the room. Kara wouldn't hear of it, between her and Lindsey, my make up artist, (Kara only works with the best) I not only looked like the hottie I saw in the media but I felt like it too. I just couldn't believe the those images were me!"

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I now see the same thing my boyfriend does when he says I am beautiful, sexy...HOT even. What I walked away from with this shoot was more then just some pretty images... I got my groove back, I got to see that woman that the media portrays as ideal, only she’s beautiful and desirable. She’s on the 30 lbs.-heavier-side-of-40, and she’s me. Thank you Kara....
— Miss R

I also must share an email that she sent me after her experience....it's so sweet, touching, and the last line just HAD to be published for all to see!!! LOVE HER! 

"I'm so glad I met you. Truly... its not just about your photos, which we all agree... you are talented, its about you too... You have this awesome Leo personality that just shines. You put all our insecurities out of our heads.. literally out of the room, and you instantly become our life long friend, our greatest support and confidante. What our men can't do... no matter how hard they love us, no matter how hard they try, you can do in a matter of 10 minutes. The self esteem you provide is undoubtedly priceless. That my dear, whether you believe it or not, is an extraordinary gift. You can share it so freely. You are more to me then just my boudoir photographer... You are my life long friend. You are like my favoritest bra... close to my heart."

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Miss R just showed 40 who was boss.  Your turn. Let's chat!

 

Well she was an American girl... | Austin Boudoir Photographer

I hope everybody has an absolutely fabulous 4th of July! Be safe and have a blast! And watch out for that combo of drinking and playing with explosives, too! ;)

 

(P.S. The vintage American Flag used in the photo above did NOT touch the ground during the making of this photo. Not even once. ;) )



Exploit yourself! A guide for boudoir photographers.

I get asked loads of questions on the daily about how to market a boudoir business, social media, blogging, etc.  I don't foresee myself ever jumping on the "TEACHER" train, because, well, I just love shooting way too much! Creating this guide was my solution to being able to help photographers who contact me for help, all while continuing to live my passion through shooting boudoir full-time. It's the best of both worlds!! ;) 

I launched the original "EXPLOIT YOURSELF" guide last year and got some really amazing feedback from it. I really beefed it up with LOADS more content and am really excited to be rolling it out today!  Read more about it and purchase yours for $30 for a limited time!

Suck it up, princess!

The inevitable quarterly mental breakdown(ish) occurred last week. It's like clockwork. The work piled up. It piled high. Well--I mean, not literally because most of my work is digital. But if digital work could pile, mine would be the biggest pile EVER.

Right around the time I think I can't possibly take on anymore, I am bombarded with a whole wagon full of rocks being pelted at me along the way. I am strong and I hold it all together. But it's that ONE last straw...the something stupid. I'm talking really really ridiculously stupid and irrelevant to the rest of my stresses. That's the straw that broke the camel's back. (me being the camel and a really dumb comment made by my husband being the straw).

 

My husband to the rescue. He poured me a glass of wine and stroked my hair as I cried and babbled about all the things going wrong. He told me I was right to feel overwhelmed and asked if there was anything he could do to make my life easier.

HA just kidding.

He told me to suck it up.  "Our life is pretty great. We both have jobs that we love. We have clients that we love. We have amazing kids. We have luxuries. You blow things up in your mind. In the grand scheme of things--they're irrelevant and small. Suck it up, princess."

 

You know, something like that. Only the way my husband could deliver it. It stung. I just wanted someone to tell me I was right. I wanted him to sympathize with me. If you know Joey, you know that he and sympathy don't exactly go hand in hand.

As much as I hate admitting when he's right (and as much as I disagree with his tactics), he reminded me that I do have it pretty freaking good. My "problems" are of the first world variety. Yes, I juggle a ton...but I'm blessed to have so much to juggle.  I need to do better about being mindful of that. 

As I was writing this blog, this popped up in my newsfeed from the amazing Marie Forleo: 

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I'm challenging myself to take things in stride not strife. Join me, will ya? Or, at the very least, slap me silly if you see me stressing. (Or have some wine with me.)

 

Xo

A little bit of everything with Miss "W" | Austin Boudoir

When Miss "W" showed up for her boudoir session, she had a little bit of everything. She had some lingerie, a few dresses, a floral slip, a clubbin' outfit, an oversized shirt, cowboy boots, "stripper heels", and accessories. I knew this was about to be a fun and diverse shoot! It did not disappoint!  

When I first met Miss W about a year and a half ago, I was a new client of hers. She's the business owner of a local establishment that I frequent. We chatted about what I do and she mentioned she wanted to have a shoot! We talked a little more about it each time I came in. Eventually she pulled the trigger and booked. I'm pretty ecstatic that she did...aren't you!?

Isn't she just lovely?! We had so much fun and could have easily shot all day!  A giant high-five to Miss "W" for really rocking out her shoot! It was amazing how many images we were able to get in less than an hour! 

Yet another face well-done by my makeup artist, Lauren of Hint of Shimmer, too!! <3

Psst! Hey you! You've been thinking about it long enough. Time to pull the trigger! Let's chat about your shoot, dahhling!




The Mysterious Miss "B" | Austin Boudoir Photographer

This set of mystery-woman images contains a few of my all-time favorite anonymous photos ever! I was so elated to get the email from Miss "B" that said "I would LOVE for you to blog some of these!".

Miss "B" came in to Austin from out of state to shoot with me as part of a surprise gift from her husband! We shot a really fabulous set of images in her hotel room and I couldn't have been more thrilled with the resulting photos.

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She said:

"I am a confident and secure women that had an amazing experience during my boudoir photo shoot. My husband planned a romantic weekend getaway to Austin and surprised me with the photo shoot.  He knew I was working hard to get in shape and become healthier.  Kara's talent and artistic ability radiates through her lens and her personality is so fun to work with.  

I had fun choosing my outfits and buying new shoes, of course!  I highly recommend this experience!"

YAY! Such a blast.  

Ready? It's your turn. Let's chat about your boudoir experience, dahhling!


Whimsical Maternity | Austin Beauty Photographer

Let. there. be. TULLE!

Monti is a repeat client of mine...and those are my favorite kinds of clients :) When someone contacts me for round 2 (or three or FOUR!) it really gives me the warm and fuzzies!  You know what makes me warmer and fuzzier? When those clients say "I really want to do something creative, beautiful, and I want you to run with it! Let's book it!".   Monti and I met for coffee a couple months ago to catch up and chat about a maternity shoot. She had seen some of my beauty work and wanted to do something like that for her session. **CUE HAPPY DANCE**.  

Without me rambling on and on too much longer, I'll cut to the chase. I made my 11th whimsical glamour skirt last week as my family rolled their eyes at yet ANOTHER pile of tulle occupying our living room.  SO.WORTH.IT.  Monti proudly strutted around, all 7 months pregnant of her, with not a single complaint about the heat or the itchy tulle. And it was HOT, y'all. Check her out!

**Standing ovation!!!**

GO MONTI! I absolutely cannot flipping wait to lay my eyes on that baby! 

 

Hair by Nina of Urban Betty

Makeup by Lauren of Hint of Shimmer

Dress by yours truly.

 

Curious about my whimsical series? I'm happy to chat more with you about booking one! They're a little different than your typical boudoir or beauty shoot, but SO beautiful! How fabulous to have an art piece like this of yourself!? I want one. (Note to self: Figure out how to shoot own whimsical session...)

Hit me up, dahhling! Let's chat!


Stop avoiding photos...

You're robbing yourself of memories.

Remember when you just had the most chaotic day at work, you were emotionally and physically exhausted, your hair was a mess, only a smidge of makeup remained intact as you headed to you child's school award ceremony? They won an award and wanted to take a picture with you, but you declined. You felt a hot mess minus the hot part. You snapped some photos of your child holding up their plaque and posted them on Facebook, all proud. 

Or how about that family vacation? You were playing in the sand, your husband whipped out the camera to get some action shots of little Johnny splashing you with water, and you ran away like the grim reaper was after you.

You weren't photo-ready, after all! You hadn't styled your hair, applied your makeup, and obviously were feeling "fluffy" because of all of the picnics/holidays/parties/vacation food... 


Even if these exact scenarios don't apply to you, I'm sure you can relate. I know that I can! I've been there. I've dodged a photo, lots of them actually.  

By doing so, I'm robbing myself and my family of memories. 30 years from now my kids won't be looking at photos of us playing together thinking "What was mom thinking not wearing mascara that day?!" or "Does she look a little bloated to you?". They would look at the photo and remember how much fun we had that day.


Being IN photos with my family and friends is something that I'm working on...and you should too. 


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These photos were taken immediately after day 3 of 10-hour shooting days while I was traveling to my hometown. The makeup that was left on my face was smudged and awful, I was pale from exhaustion and lack of calories, red wine stained my teeth after I just downed a glass of Malbec to wind down from a long day, and I had "travel pimples" (not sure what it is about flying, but I always break out). But you know what?? I will always cherish these images of myself with my sister (my mom actually- but you wouldn't believe that, would you?!), and my grandmother who is one of my favorite people in the world and is suffering from dimentia but is doing her best to keep on kickin'!  I will always have these images and will remember her crazy personality, her awesome sense of style, and what she said to me that day. Are they out of focus? Yep. Bad composition? Yep. Give me a break, it was a selfie ;) But it's not important. They're some of my favorite images of all time.

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Who knows how long any of us has left in this lifetime?

Photos = lifelong memories. Period.  Don't rob yourself of that for any reason.